A corner for those touched indirectly by breast cancer
It's often easy to forget that breast cancer doesn't just affect the person who has been diagnosed with the disease but also those who love and care for that person. Admittedly these friends and relatives don't have to undergo treatment and aren't fighting a life-threatening illness but they are affected in many ways and often don't get enough support themselves.
The idea of this page is to allow those people to tell their story, discuss their worries and fears and to share help and tips that may make the journey just that little bit easier or more bearable.
If you have anything that you would like to say from the point of view of a relative, friend, carer or someone who's been touched by breast cancer without being diagnosed themselves then please contact us at
Breast Cancer Corner and we will share your message.
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Relatives Corner
All those touched by cancer in a loved one find support or share your story here
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Relatives Corner > Supporting my wife
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Gerald
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20/02/2010 07:30:27
Supporting my wife
My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. I had a hard time accepting this fact as our relationship as a couple is still starting. We’ve been girlfriend and boyfriend for 8 years and it was just last year that we got married. She is my life and we are starting to build a family here. But, ironically, my wife takes her cancer calmly. She is such a strong woman. Amazing wife
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Michelle
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20/02/2010 08:00:46
RE:Supporting my wife
You have to be strong for your wife as well. She is your pillar. Although you’re breaking inside, don’t show these weaknesses to her. This might also weaken her, seeing you like that.
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Gerald
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20/02/2010 08:06:15
RE:Supporting my wife
Yeah, thanks for the advice. I am trying my very best everyday to be strong for her.
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Michelle
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20/02/2010 08:27:02
RE:Supporting my wife
Gerald wrote: Yeah, thanks for the advice. I am trying my very best everyday to be strong for her.
You're very welcome!
I’ve tried this and this is very effective on me. In order for you not to pay attention to your feelings, try to focus on doing something. Such as, focus in accompanying her to her doctor, or during her medication…focus on what the doctors are saying. Focus on her recovery. Be strong that after everything, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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Gerald
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20/02/2010 16:12:57
RE:Supporting my wife
Michelle wrote: Gerald wrote: Yeah, thanks for the advice. I am trying my very best everyday to be strong for her.
You're very welcome! I’ve tried this and this is very effective on me. In order for you not to pay attention to your feelings, try to focus on doing something. Such as, focus in accompanying her to her doctor, or during her medication…focus on what the doctors are saying. Focus on her recovery. Be strong that after everything, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I will take this. It’s nice to know that there are people who can relate what I am going through.
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Angel
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20/02/2010 16:27:07
RE:Supporting my wife
It’s nice to know that you are there with your wife one hundred percent. My mother has also a breast cancer…and it is not an easy road for this. Aside from her cancer, we also have to deal with her change of attitude…I know this is just a front and that my mother is really hurting inside.
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Michelle
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20/02/2010 16:34:36
RE:Supporting my wife
These people need our patience and understanding.
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Gerald
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20/02/2010 16:40:16
RE:Supporting my wife
I perfectly agree.
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Anthony
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21/02/2010 05:26:50
RE:Supporting my wife
For my part, I hate myself for not being always there for my wife. My work is taking all of my time, but I know that I have to be there for her. But I cannot leave work because I have to earn money to pay for her medication. She was diagnosed with Stage 1 breast cancer before. We thought that it was already gone but last December, another lump was discovered at her another breast and it is malignant.
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Russ
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21/02/2010 14:02:34
RE:Supporting my wife
On my own opinion, presence really means a lot.
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October - Breast Cancer Awareness Month
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 October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month – it’s here to help us all to be more “breast aware”. Unfortunately breast cancer is still the most common cancer is the UK with nearly 46,000 people being diagnosed every year. By having a breast cancer awareness month, Breast Cancer Care hopes to keep people talking about this disease which affects so many people.
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